Polyamory, Ethical Non-Monogamy Counselling
What does this mean ?
Relationships are complex, also some people have a different lens of what a relationships mean to them.
Not all people follow the traditional idea of monogamy.
At our practice, we offer a compassionate, inclusive space for individuals, couples, thrupples and constellations exploring or living within polyamorous, open, or ethically non-monogamous and monogamous relationships.
You might be navigating new dynamics, adjusting agreements, or simply wanting to strengthen communication and emotional safety.
Therapy can help you explore your relationships with curiosity, honesty, and care.
If you choose change the constellation of your relationship, and if each person agrees to boundaries, terms and agreements they can ‘choose to’ adapt over time.
Our practice supports consenting adults exploring ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. We follow ACA ethical standards and do not provide legal, binding, or prescriptive agreements.
What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy?
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) describes relationship structures where people engage in more than one romantic or sexual connection — with openness, honesty, and consent from everyone involved.
Unlike non-consensual non-monogamy (for example, any form of extra out of relationship in justices or affairs),
ENM is grounded in ethics: clear communication, respect for boundaries, and shared understanding.
Agreements for all parties need to be established and re-visited everytime a person feels there has been a blurring of boundaries and agreements.
Common forms of Ethical Non-Monogamy include:
Polyamory: Ongoing romantic or emotional relationships with multiple people.
Open relationships: A primary partnership that welcomes other experiences within agreed boundaries.
Relationship anarchy: Building connections without pre-set hierarchies or expectations.
Swinging: Engaging in consensual sexual experiences with others, often together as a couple.
Every structure is unique — there’s no single “right” way, only what’s honest and sustainable for those involved.
Polyamory & Nesting Partners
In polyamorous relationships, a nesting partner is someone you share a location, home or daily life with — they might be a cohabiting partner, co-parent, or life companion.
Note: People who are in your life as partners or nesting partner - there may or may not be a romantic or sexual relationship in this agreement.
Other partners may hold different forms of closeness — emotional, romantic, or sexual — without necessarily sharing living arrangements.
In therapy, we might explore:
How to balance time, energy, and emotional presence across relationships.
How to navigate the dynamics between nesting and non-nesting partners.
Creating agreements that honour autonomy while supporting shared life structures.
The goal isn’t to fit any mindset or framework, model — it’s to co-create relationships that feel authentic and respectful for everyone involved.
Agreements, Boundaries & Communication
Healthy ethical non-monogamy relies on clear, ongoing communication. Agreements aren’t about control — they’re about care.
Therapy can provide space to explore:
How your values shape your agreements.
What safety and freedom mean for you.
How to talk through jealousy, compersion, and emotional needs.
When and how to revisit agreements as relationships evolve.
Support for LGBTIQA+ & Queer Relationships
Queer and gender-diverse communities often lead the way in re-imagining relationship structures.
Whether you identify as queer, trans, non-binary, bisexual, pansexual, or somewhere beautifully in-between, you deserve a space where your identity and relationships are seen and celebrated.
As an LGBTIQA+-affirming therapist, I recognise the social, cultural, and personal layers that influence your relationships — including stigma, internalised beliefs, and family expectations.
Together, we can work toward self-acceptance, communication, and connection grounded in pride and authenticity.
Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
People often describe ENM as a path toward:
Deeper self-awareness of needs, values, and limits.
Stronger communication and emotional honesty.
Personal growth, learning to manage complexity and empathy.
Authentic connection, built on choice rather than expectation.
Shared autonomy, where relationships are designed, not assumed.
There’s no perfect structure — just ongoing curiosity, care, and courage.
Why work with us?
As a somatic and relational psychotherapist, we bring a trauma-informed, body-based approach to relationship counselling.
Our work is grounded in compassion, respect, and inclusivity.
In sessions, we explore both your emotional landscape and the embodied experiences that shape your relationships.
Together, we can clarify what feels right for you, understand emotional patterns, and develop tools to navigate connection with integrity.